All you need is… Feedback
LOVE is feedback.
Falling in love, our feelings are reflected from our beloved and we instantly get their affirmation or rejection. This feedback, in turn, makes us either euphoric or put us down in the case of rejection. For some, experiencing rejection results in increased conviction and so they try harder to get approval for their feelings.
When emotions from both parties match and close a feedback LOOP a dynamic system is created — a new relationship emerges (see here for more about emerging order from local interactions).
For good or for bad, feedback creates dynamics, and enables change.
We get much of our information as feedback. For example from driver feedback signs or through ‘likes’ on our social media posts (please give feedback below). The computation of many of our life’s spheres is making such feedback much more available and quicker (see more here).
Its our human nature to constantly operate on feedback, even without awareness, our senses and brain are always intercepting and analyzing feedback from our surroundings.
Its a survival mechanism, its how we learn and develop our language and basically all of our skills. The feedback we get can impact our behavior unconscionably, as demonstrated by a nice experiment done in the University of Newcastle. In this experiment, pictures of both flowers and of human eyes were put next to a coffee table. The alternation between these pictures (shown below) suggests an influence on the behavior of the coffee drinkers, an influence that tripled the amount they were voluntarily willing to pay for their drink.
How about starting to make feedback work for us, and connecting that feedback into some useful feedback loops? In a more conscious, planned way?
We must start thinking about what kind of feedback are we collecting from our surroundings? What feedback are we giving back ? Is it helping us to solve complex questions and problems? Are we using these loops to change our landscape for change? (see here).
Creating the feedback that really matters and that will close up a feedback loop is not easy but crucial to create new dynamics that will help the right change emerge out of the interaction you are part of and want to lead.
Feedback, through feedback loops, becomes a tool that we can use to navigate change. If we create feedback mindfully and carefully we can create a favorable dynamics for the change we seek (read here more about the importance of using the right tools to create change).
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